tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post456201214935673336..comments2024-03-22T03:35:27.752-04:00Comments on Written Inc.: The illusion of controlcarmilevyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00360045114379957605noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-87441201270162257532013-03-03T20:51:47.506-05:002013-03-03T20:51:47.506-05:00Carmi, I am just now reading this and realizing th...Carmi, I am just now reading this and realizing that tragedy (however expected it was, it is still tragic) has struck your family once again. <br />My condolences to your family: your father-in-law, your kids, and most especially your lovely wife. Losing a mother is painful. <br /><br />Please give your wife a comforting hug from this stranger who has been there in her shoes. Karen (formerly kcinnova)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16705613736966783261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-65923803780641915712013-03-02T14:30:39.545-05:002013-03-02T14:30:39.545-05:00From the writer's perspective...I totally get ...From the writer's perspective...I totally get this. Sometimes you sit and write and what pours out just <i>is</i>. If it falls short, you can edit. You can fix.<br /><br />Then real life intrudes, and it's a kick in the teeth and there's no dentist around to numb you up.<br /><br />I really, truly wish that you and your family weren't going through this. But I admire that you're in the middle of it, peering through the grief instead of standing outside it, watch it unfold for others. Having been on both sides...where you're at hurts more, but in the end, it means everything.Thumperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02154314376352066709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-43170348815740517622013-03-02T10:41:37.705-05:002013-03-02T10:41:37.705-05:00Even through all our dark days, and they too must ...Even through all our dark days, and they too must arrive, and we wouldn't ever want our lives to be too predictable, or mapped out. If they were all those precious unexpected moments of incredible joys, like that moment we learn about the birth of our child to the random loveliness of walking in the woods would be lost. I am keeping you all in my prayers.<br />21 Witshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00071361755673253230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-82442465682205891062013-03-02T08:29:24.010-05:002013-03-02T08:29:24.010-05:00Carmi, I haven't commented this past week, not...Carmi, I haven't commented this past week, not because I don't care, but because no words of mine seemed adequate.<br /><br />We have never met in person, but we've been exchanging words online for the better part of a decade. As a reader, I've watched your kids grow up, shared your joys, felt your sorrows. <br /><br />Isn't there some quote about a sorrow shared being lessened? I hope that's true, because I know there are many, many people reading your words, and taking on some small amount of pain on your behalf. <br /><br />I'm sorry for your loss. Sorry your wife has lost her mother. (My mother is one of my best friends, I cannot IMAGINE the grief I would feel in the same position.) Sorry your kids have lost their bubby. Sorry your words have been muted. <br /><br />In all the years I've 'known' you, I've never seen you this affected - maybe it's because after all this time you're more open about things, or maybe it's just a threshold...<br /><br />My heart hurts for you. <br /><br />I watch too many Aaron Sorkin shows, and as a result, his language seeps into mine. One of the phrases he uses a lot is "better angels." <br /><br />Carmi, you are one of the people who makes it easier for me to listen to MY better angels. <br /><br />I wish you peace and love and light in great abundance.<br /><br />The words will come. <br />Indeed, they're already creeping back. <br /><br />And I, as well as so many others who have, no doubt, left comments too (I'm not in a position to read all the comments right now.) will be here to read them.<br /><br />You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com