tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post3645043444696277407..comments2024-03-22T03:35:27.752-04:00Comments on Written Inc.: High school not-so-confidentialcarmilevyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00360045114379957605noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-3065222694177639872009-11-17T13:08:48.984-05:002009-11-17T13:08:48.984-05:00Take as much time as you need. Everyone is differ...Take as much time as you need. Everyone is different. It took me about a year to feel like wanting to attend those larger functions after my mother died. It was hard enough working in the women's department at a large retail store during Mother's Day. <br /><br />I've been four high school reunions, the. The 10 year is the show off "look how great I am" reunion. After that, the reunions are more sincere and people are truly happy to see you, no matter what. Well, it's been that way for me.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03163803961338323135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-83730781573533717912009-11-16T23:26:26.390-05:002009-11-16T23:26:26.390-05:00In the end, Carmi, only two things are important, ...In the end, Carmi, only two things are important, and two others are true. <br />Important: <br />1. Being with those who get it - i.e. your family. <br />2. Taking the time you need to tuck your Dad into the corner of your heart that his lifetime prepared for him there - and feeling healed enough to go out and be happy, knowing always that his corner of your heart goes with you. <br />True: <br />1. The people who mattered in high school don't need you at the reunion; you're pretty public. They'll find you.<br />2. Fun will return, maybe as a reunion, maybe just photographing your kids tossing pennies in a fountain. When you're ready, it will be there waiting. It always is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-26290593147859964372009-11-16T23:26:10.414-05:002009-11-16T23:26:10.414-05:00Some folks here
some folks there
some folks no pla...Some folks here<br />some folks there<br />some folks no place<br />some folks-everywhere.<br /><br /><br />Aloha, Friend!<br /><br /><br /><a href="http://comfortspiral.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Comfort Spiral</a>Cloudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853753108637831069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-82918023892064184912009-11-16T22:06:26.750-05:002009-11-16T22:06:26.750-05:00I was so glad you popped in. I know that it's...I was so glad you popped in. I know that it's just not a comfortable feeling to go to a large event with basically a fake smile on your face. Hopefully people will understand this because there are times when it just seems like a burden to be there when you'd rather be alone. <br /><br />I probably didn't make any sense.. I just feel bad that you lost your father. It takes time to heal.. indulge yourself in that time you need. <br /><br />SolSolhttp://orphicsoliloquy.blogdrive.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-24129513082314755082009-11-16T19:50:09.601-05:002009-11-16T19:50:09.601-05:00Hi Carmi... Not to sound like an old Jewish mama, ...Hi Carmi... Not to sound like an old Jewish mama, (we know I am), if you're anything like your dad was, he wouldn't want you to miss life's best amusements. My dad passed away, 13 years ago. I thought I'd never be happy again. I was his little girl and he was always my rock. When people tell you that time heals all, don't listen to them. Time does not heal but is does make the pain a bit easier to deal with. A day doesn't go by that thoughts and memories of my dad don't enter my mind. I've learned that embracing those memories has become comforting.<br />When the next "big event" comes around, GO and have fun. Imagine your dad watching and laughing from above. Imagine that proud look he used to give you. Don't you feel their pain when you're holding your kids when they are hurt or crying? Isn't watching your kids playing and having fun the best feeling ever? <br />Your dad is no different.<br />Don't stop making him proud!<br />Hugs,<br />Teri<br /><br />P.S. High School reunions are great! Being yourself while watching others act like people they're not is hysterical!!!Clinical Researcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13242060931312716036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-11991236880481853362009-11-16T19:44:24.142-05:002009-11-16T19:44:24.142-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Clinical Researcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13242060931312716036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-23596398339513560932009-11-16T19:22:44.446-05:002009-11-16T19:22:44.446-05:00I fully understand why you missed it, Carmi. It wo...I fully understand why you missed it, Carmi. It would feel disrespectful to have fun like that so soon after your father's passing. But I do hope you'll go to the next one. Regardless of the things klaatu and Mojo said, some people have a great time at high school reunions - I always do.kenjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-27476562702779157062009-11-16T18:54:54.889-05:002009-11-16T18:54:54.889-05:00I went to my 10-year reunion thinking it'd be ...I went to my 10-year reunion thinking it'd be interesting to see who had already gotten old and fat and bald and who had blossomed and become gorgeous and successful and maybe see some old friends (good for the soul, Bob Seger would have us believe).<br /><br />And somewhere during the second day of festivities it dawned on me that all these people I found myself among were people I'd known, people I could even put names to (most of them anyway), but what they were <i>not</i> were people I'd hung out with back in the day. And the people I <i>did</i> hang out with back in the day? None of them were there.<br /><br />I skipped the 20th and 30th reunions... probably offended the organizers if they even stopped to think about it. I quit getting mail from the alumni association years ago. (Who has an alumni association in <i>high school</i> anyway, I ask you?)<br /><br />You're right. Some people get it, some don't. And those that don't never will until it happens to them. They are not worth wasting good worry over. You go at your own pace, feel your way through it and if you come out the other side down a few friends, then I'd say they weren't true friends in the first place.Mojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03498213932233245032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7449503.post-26520543635700955012009-11-16T18:43:29.778-05:002009-11-16T18:43:29.778-05:00A high school reunion is just loser-palooza. Faile...A high school reunion is just loser-palooza. Failed, uhappy people, whose best days are behind them. And wait until the D.J. plays Bruce Springsteen's "Glory Days" and see the recognition and sad regret play behind the eyes of your former classmates.<br />They lie about their jobs, go to the gym three months before the reunion to get rid of twenty years of fat. They will play one upmanship to try to feel superior,and after it is all over<br />try to believe it was fun.<br />But there is fun. The nerds now own million dollar companies, and the pretty girls who wouldn't give them the time of day in grade eleven, now live in trailers with their alcoholic former football stars. <br />The plain girls in grade ten, filled out and got georgous and successful.<br />You, however, are an international man of mystery. You speak cryptically,tell them "I am not at liberty to say" or answer questions with " That's classified."<br />And you don't always drink beer, but when you do, it's Dos Equus.invisiblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17772375005034797148noreply@blogger.com