Monday, November 25, 2013

Whatever you do, don't spill it

Apples. Squeezed.
At altitude, somewhere over Canada
February 2013
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Years ago, I started a tradition when I travel for work. It involved taking pictures of whatever I was eating, drinking, seeing or doing, then sharing the photos with my kids.

It helped bridge the distance a bit, and helped them better understand why I had to be away every once in a while. It also helped me, because it gave me a reflective moment in the middle of an otherwise chaotic trip where I could quietly sit down and think of them.

Even now, I try to stick closer to home if I can get away with it. But on the odd occasion where I find myself in a car, train or plane, it usually doesn't take too long before the camera comes out. And on this cold winter's day somewhere over Canada's Rocky Mountains, I found myself drinking apple juice, and it didn't take long before the camera found its way into my hand. For some odd reason, apple juice has been a recurring theme, and I can't even begin to explain why.

Your turn: What's your favorite drink? Why?

One more thing: Stay tuned for the next Thematic theme, in the foreground, which we'll launch tonight at 7 p.m. Eastern. If you want to throw in a last-minute drink-themed pic, feel free to head here (it's always a good time, after all.) Enjoy.

Friday, November 22, 2013

The day dawns grey in Cambridge

From one end of Ontario to the other, today was an unbroken string of fog, myst and rain. I know this because I witnessed it from the driver's seat of my car, and as much I willed the sun to come out, Mother Nature had other plans.

We're back in Montreal for a quick visit with my father-in-law. He turned 80 today, and as this is his first birthday since my mother-in-law passed away, we simply needed to be here. If I've learned one thing from my wife - okay, I've learned many things from her over the years, but please humor me - it's this: sometimes you just need to be there. Doesn't matter whether it's a celebration, a milestone, or even an illness. When it comes to family, she's taught me the unwritten rule. You go. No questions asked.

So here we are. And despite the darkened skies and rain-slicked roads, it was a bright day. Our car was filled with the unmistakable energy of a brood on a road trip. Our kids got a grandfatherly hug when we arrived. Okay, maybe two. And dinner was a dozen and a half members of his extended family filling the room with energy and warmth. 

Deb's mom would have loved it. At the very least, her spirit was felt, and for now that'll have to be enough.


Thursday, November 21, 2013

On getting the most out of life

Life is short and often stingy; feast the heart with what it craves, short of cruelty, and let the world wonder.
Reynolds Price
Words to live by...

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Because underdogs should always win

Betty, not Veronica
Mary Ann, not Ginger
Bailey, not Jennifer
Velma, not Daphne

Your turn: You know where I stand. What about you?

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Tea far from home

Keeping warm
New York, NY
November 2013
Thematic. Drink. Here.
There's something about having tea far from home that seems to take the edge off of being alone and disconnected.

As I write this, I'm surrounded by masses of strangers rushing in every direction imaginable, overwhelmingly bright lights that assault my eyes, and enough foreground and background noise to keep me deaf for my next three lives - assuming this whole afterlife thing isn't a crock. It's a lot colder outside than I thought it would be, and my decision to disregard my wife's advice to dress warmer is coming back to haunt me. She was indeed right.

So I grab hold of my holiday-themed cup and let its warmth slowly seep into my fingers. I don't necessarily need to drink it just yet. Just the feeling of it in my hands is enough to not only return feeling to my frozen digits, but also cut down the distance from the part of this world that matters most to me.

All this from a simple drink. Crazy how that works, isn't it?

Monday, November 18, 2013

Thematic Photographic 269 - Drink

Tea is ready
London, ON
November 2013
I'll be quick. It's getting cold and windy outside, and winter is knocking hard on the front door. Some days, she comes right inside and makes herself right at home.

So we drink. Tea, coffee, whatever makes us happy. And for the next week, I hope we'll take pictures of what we're drinking - creative ones, wild ones, whatever you want - and share them online.

We call it Thematic Photographic, and everyone's welcome to pick up a camera and join in.

Your turn: Take a pic that supports this week's theme, Drink. Share it on your blog or website, then leave a comment here letting folks know where to find it. Visit other participants to share the photographic joy. Tweet it out using the #ThematicPhotographic hashtag, and feel free to return through the week: multiples are always welcome. For more info on how Thematic works, click here. Enjoy, and thanks!


Sunday, November 17, 2013

One final flash of red

I didn't get out as often as I had hoped this year to capture the fall colors. Like most folks, I had the best of intentions, but my could-go times never aligned with the right time of day or the right weather or the right light conditions. And by the time everything came together, peak color had come and gone. 

Bummer, I know. But no one ever said this life thing followed a consistent script.

But the universe has an interesting way of salvaging what might have otherwise been. As I was walking back to my car on a damp afternoon last week, I came across this scene that in one last blast of color made up for my complete lack of lens time over much of the previous month.

Sometimes it takes a little extra time for the moment to present itself. Sometimes you just have to have a little patience.



Saturday, November 16, 2013

On telling the naysayers to stuff it

"I will never turn down my ambition because someone else is uncomfortable with the volume."
Unknown
Yup. Sounds about right. I was never much of an apologist, anyway.

Eat your breakfast every day

I often joke about how social media can be such a wasteland because everyone uses it to take pictures of their breakfast and share them.

Yet here I am doing precisely the same thing. Which makes me wonder if I've joined the legions of the vacuous, or if I've simply decided the occasional snippet of a day well lived is worth sharing.

Call me conflicted. Interwebs, what say you?

Friday, November 15, 2013

The simple things...

Sometimes you just have to grab the fleeting moments to do stuff with your kids. Because they won't be kids forever, and they won't always want to hold your hand or hang around with you.

But today she did, so here I find myself sitting on frigid grandstands watching her school's team play. The temperature, of course, is irrelevant. The fact that I'm here at all, however, means everything.

Enjoy the moment, folks.

Batkid saves San Francisco

This week on Planet Earth, it's been all too easy to submit to the negativity, to give up in the face of overwhelming natural disasters and disasters of their own making. When you look around you and see so much grey, it often seems like the light at the end of the tunnel may never show its face again.

Thanks to a 5-year-old leukemia survivor, Miles Scott, in San Francisco, you might want to reconsider the hope thing. Try to read this story and not cheer. Or cry. Or both.
Batkid saves San Francisco in epic Make-a-Wish dream come true
And if you're the Twittering type, follow the #SFBatkid hashtag for the latest. This is what defines heartwarming.

Related links: ABC, Yahoo/AP, LA Times

On leadership and inspiration

"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader."
John Quincy Adams
All this Rob Ford drama - and, to be fair, the ridiculousness surrounding London's own indicted-for-fraud Mayor Joe Fontana - has gotten me thinking about who leads, why, and why we look up to them. As I write this, Mr. Ford refuses to resign amid a growing movement to either convince him to quit or force him from office.

The rules, such as they are, do not include provisions for removing a sitting mayor, but the rules are painfully inadequate here. We're long beyond the point at which process and procedure are the only things that matter. Rather, we're well into the zone of what this says about us as a society, and what kinds of messages we want to send to our kids. They are, after all, watching and learning. And the complete absence of inspirational leadership sets a tone for the rest of us that almost begs for perpetual acceptance of mediocrity in the way we live.

Leaders must inspire. And if they don't, or won't, or can't, they should leave the stage and make room for others who will. Too many so-called leaders seem to forget this very simple fact. Pity that. Maybe that's why the planet is so mired in chaos these days.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Would you work for nothing?

Would you work for free? The answer isn't always as black-and-white as it seems. And as the debate over unpaid internships continues to rage, I can't help but think back to my own experiences working in exchange for no salary.

It's how I got my start, actually. A long, long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away - okay, it was Montreal - I cold-called a news director at a rather large radio station, and was rather stunned when a) I got him live on the phone, and b) he told the naive, teenaged me to drop in for a meeting later that week. The meeting went well, I got the "job", and before long, I was spending an evening every week writing scripts, pulling clips, stacking carts and updating the on-air announcers with whatever news, weather, sports and entertainment they needed. There may have been the occasional coffee run, as well.

Making it real

The "job" eventually turned into a real job with a real paycheck. And I worked through my undergrad and after graduation, using it as an ideal counterpoint to what I was studying in class. After it turned into a real job, I'd often write the morning news run, then head over to campus for classes as I tried my best to not fall asleep. It added an amazing dimension to my education, and it set the tone for everything that came afterward. I wouldn't change a thing.

The goal of an unpaid internship, of course, isn't to simply be in a freakishly cool environment. Interns who stand at the studio door - or the reception area, or the VP's office, or anywhere else in the building - with their jaws agape because they've "made it" and are simply awestruck at the experience will, to be kind, usually crash and burn. You take unpaid work as an opportunity to become a known quantity to others, to prove your worth, and to convince Those Who Make The Decisions that the value you add to their lives makes you an essential - and eventually paid - addition to the team.

A place to start

An internship - or any kind of  a springboard, a steppingstone, a launching pad - is a window, with a defined start and end, within which you need to make something happen. And if, after years of toiling away, you're still waiting for your so-called big break, you may want to rethink what you thought an internship was in the first place.

I'm lucky in that I seem to have used the idea of free work to my advantage, and now that I'm somewhat established I'm long past the point at which I need to work in exchange for nothing. I've managed to build enough of a brand for myself that I don't have to do much cold-calling anymore, and I don't need to work for free in order to prove my worth. Yet, oddly, I still get requests for free. I'm often told that the work will bring me some great exposure, will help me build my brand, will help me invest in my future.

Um, I don't want to sound mean-spirited, but I've got all the "exposure" I need right now - here's just one example - so if it's just as well with the free-seekers, I'd rather focus on doing the kind of work that keeps the lights on, the writing that either generates revenue directly, or maintains my branding, visibility and image in support of direct revenue generation.

Because in the end, I can't pay the electric bill with "exposure". And I'm guessing you can't, either.

Rob and Doug Ford head to Sun News

Because you haven't heard enough of Toronto Mayor Rob Ford yet.

Or of his brother, Doug.

Or of the fine mayor's crack smoking.

Or of his sexual appetite.

Or of his drinking and driving.

The train wreck that is Mr. Ford switches onto another track with news that the Sun News Network - a subsidiary of Quebecor, the company that owns my city's paper, the London Free Press - will launch The Rob and Doug Ford Show. You might remember that the brothers hosted a show, The City, on Toronto's NewsTalk1010 radio station, until it was recently ended by "mutual agreement".

Disclosure: I do a lot of work with NewsTalk 1010 and other radio stations in the Bell Media family (including CJAD in Montreal and 1290 CJBK in London.) I have done a number of interviews with Sun in the past, as well. I'm immensely proud of the kind of work I've been able to do on Bell-related platforms, including CTV. Sun's decision to bring the Ford brothers on board at a time when the good mayor really should be focusing on getting rid of whatever demons afflict him smacks of media opportunism.

As a consumer, I don't want to watch because I don't want to encourage the obvious exploitation of someone who clearly lacks the ability and the will to help himself. As a professional journalist, I don't want my brand watered down by even the most remote association with a newsroom that so willingly crosses the line from coverage to being an integral part of the spectacle.

Thoughts?

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Thematicless

Power to the people
London, ON
July 2013
I've been remiss in posting a new Thematic theme. The rules stipulate that every Monday, I'll post a new one, and then we'll spend a week sharing our interpretations of said theme before another Monday rolls around and we begin anew.

And yet, here we are on a Wednesday, and still no new theme.

I offer no excuses. I'm just busy. And after putting the work stuff to bed this week, it's been a little tougher than usual to find the time to pull something together for the coming week. I figured either give it the time to do it right, or don't do it at all.

So for this week, we'll go themeless. Please accept this offer of a power-themed shot in support of last week's theme (here) as something of a peace offering. I'll post a new theme next Monday and we'll get things back on something approaching an even keel.

Until then, whatever the venue, happy shooting.

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

On learning to let go of the past

"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new."
Socrates
Humans are essentially packrats. We seem to be most comfortable when we're surrounded by stuff - people, things, figurative structures - that are familiar to us.

Sometimes all that legacy comes with a cost. Like when it pulls you back, keeps you from seeing things from new perspectives, limits your willingness to take the unknown path.

I've spent too much of my time on this planet hanging around folks who seem intent on looking back. So I hope you won't mind if I yank the rearview mirror down and surround myself, instead, with folks who aren't so afraid to leave it all behind and trade it all for something truly impactful.

Please forgive me if I'd rather spend my future days striving for something better instead of settling for what once was.

Thoughts?

Winter arrives. Deal with it.

This is what greeted us outside the kitchen window this morning. No surprise, really, as we'd been expecting snow squalls all day yesterday and by the time I walked the dog before bed, our burg was sporting a nice white blanket.

Facebook and Twitter have been predictably overflowing with complaints about the weather. It's too cold. It's miserable. We hate it. Make it stop. Blah, blah, blah. Frankly, it makes me laugh. We have as much control over the weather as, well, we don't. It evolves on its own terms, and thinking anything else is a waste of time, energy and resources.

As I walked the dog last night, I hung back and watched him romp through the snow. He repeatedly buried his snout in the snow, only to emerge with his face covered in white. I'm quite sure he was smiling, as his body language spoke of pure joy at this mysterious, delightful white stuff that dogs don't logically understand, but appreciate, in their souls, more than we ever could.

We stayed out longer than usual, and he still didn't want to head back when I finally tugged on his leash and pointed us toward home. Maybe I need to follow his lead more often. Maybe we all do.

Saturday, November 09, 2013

More gratuitous dog porn

Talking to the journalists of tomorrow

I had a neat experience this week that I wanted to share here. Dan Brown - an editor and columnist with the London Free Press whose work I've followed and admired for years - invited me to speak to his graduate program class at Western University. I'm lucky that Dan has also become a good friend, a trusted person who's been there, and always seems to make the time to answer whatever crazy questions I throw at him.

So it was, of course, a huge honor to be asked. At the same time, it was daunting: what, after all, could I have to share with a bunch of folks I've never met before? I didn't want to let Dan and his students down.

I remember full well what it was like when I was in journalism school and guest speakers would drop in. Some were, ah, forgettable. They almost read from a script, telling us what they did and did not expect as we dropped resumes at the reception desks of their Large Media Organizations. Almost as soon as class was over, they disappeared from memory, and for the most part I don't recall crossing their paths later on.

Other speakers, on the other hand, resonated. They'd tell you about themselves. About what it was really like to fight their way into and through a profession that's never been easy to navigate. They weren't afraid to let you in on some of their secrets. While they knew full well we might be competing against them in the open marketplace someday, they also knew that sharing always adds to both sides of an equation, that you don't lose something by letting others learn from your experience. It was a level of kindness that deeply influenced me.

I am the journalist that I am today because so many of these generous souls took the time - and had the courage - to give us everything they had. They turned the classroom into a workshop of media management best practices. They spared no detail and let us peer into what it was like for them to be where they were - and how they got there in the first place. They stuck around long after class and answered every question we could throw at them. They answered our calls months later when we bugged them with what must have been an endless stream of lame, newbie questions. They never made it seem as if we were imposing. I've remembered each and every one of them, and their lessons continue to push me to this day. I owe them more than I care to admit.

So when I got the call, I thought of them. I thought back to what made the good ones so memorable. I asked myself what newbie-me would want to hear. And what he wouldn't want to hear, either. I thought about how much more difficult it is to gain a toehold in this market today thanks to the implosion of conventional media models and their replacement by ever-changing, often-confusing new ones. As an industry, we're all in the middle of figuring it out - indeed, that pretty much defines my career path - so I can only imagine what it must be like to be just starting out.

So I outlined some approaches, bounced 'em off of Dan, then bounced into class and started talking. The neat thing was it didn't take long for the questions to start. And the talk became a discussion, one where I had my eyes opened just as widely as everyone in the room. I wish I could have captured that groove, that feeling you get when things are flowing exactly as they were meant to, so that I could visualize it for you here.

Dan, who I wish I had had as an instructor when I was first learning, often says, "When one teaches, two learn." And he's absolutely right. On this night, I learned. From him, from his students, from an experience I won't soon forget. I hope everyone else who was there feels similarly. And I hope I get to do stuff like this more often, because who are we if we're not constantly learning?

Your turn: Your most memorable lesson was...?

Friday, November 08, 2013

On setting the world on fire

"If you are what you should be, then you will set the world on fire."
St. Catherine of Siena
I'm not usually a TGIF kind of person. I don't loathe the workweek for five days as I count the hours until the weekend arrives.

To be fair, I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking back to times in my life when I drove a cubicle for a living and may have, ahem, seen things a little differently than I do now. But that was then and I can't very well go back and change it. What matters is today. And today I was lucky to do the kind of work that feeds my soul. I researched stuff. I wrote stuff. I interviewed some really smart people. I did some radio. I wrote some more. I planned for next week.

It was a non-stop day, yet luckily amid the chaos I was able to drive our son to school and, later, our daughter to a program. I hugged the dog while waiting for my tea to steep, and I sat on the front porch for a few minutes to feel the approaching-winter's wind on my face.

And then I went back inside, settled back into my office, put my fingers on the keys and let them fly. I've got to admit it felt good. Better than good. Indeed, it's the place where I probably feel most alive, where I have absolute control over this unpredictable thing called life. Where I feel if I keep at it long enough, I will indeed set the world on fire.

If only I didn't have to stop when Friday turns to Saturday.

So maybe I just won't.

Your turn: How do you set the world on fire?