I lost my dad two years ago today. They say that time heals, but I'm not entirely sure I believe it, and I'm not entirely sure it would make a difference one way or another.
Normally I'd have a whole lot to say, but today, for whatever reason, the words won't come.
Maybe later.
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Be Still, Advent Day 19: Shine Your Light
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i don't think there are words, i understand how you feel
No words are needed. Those of us who've been there (no - who ARE there/here) understand. Those who are lucky enough not to know firsthand will sympathize. You're surrounded by love and support. And no, time doesn't heal. It just puts distance between the initial shock and pain but to me, time makes it worse because you realize...they're not coming back.
Love and hugs across the miles, you're not alone, Carmi. XOXO
I was told those same words as well.. Time may not heal, I think time allows us to go thru the process of understanding and if we don't go thru the process we are stuck in limbo.. In my case, to be able to experience a relationship showed to many that I opened my heart again..
My dad died July 1, 2010. I remember thinking this past July that I thought I would be farther along in the grieving process by the year anniversary. I still cry every day. I'm thinking about you, Carmi.
On days like this for me, (I've sadly lost both my parents already) surrounding myself with loved ones and flooding myself with memories take me through the day...a little bit wiser to know that the more memories I make today, the more I'll have later....may many blessings surround you all day long Carmi.....
I lost my dad 3 years ago July 15. Whomever said it gets easier, obviously didn't have the close relationship that others have. I don't find it any easier, nor do I think I have healed any.
The one consolation I carry is he is watching over me and my family, and is with my brother who passed this July 26.
(((HUGS)))
I have enver believed the time heals thing. It may numb but its always there.
Thinking of you. I wouldn't say words either.
hugs
I remember that time for your family and how broken-hearted you were, and still are. No words are need today, but I will send up a few of my own in prayer for your comfort and that memories of your dad play like a happy movie in your mind.
Carmi,
Whoever told you that time heals has good intentions, but is lying. Time does not mitigate the pain. Time helps you understand and possibly prepare for the pain. My Dad died 45 years ago this coming October. I usually understand the pain, but every once in a while it still sneaks up and kicks me in the stomach. In truth, it's good to know it still matters, even 45 years later. Shabbat Shalom, Shana Tova.
Spoken or unspoken, your words are understood. And felt deeply.
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