Monday, December 26, 2011

On birds, horses and happiness

"Did you ever see an unhappy horse? Did you ever see bird that had the blues? One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses."
Dale Carnegie
I grew up surrounded by folks who fretted over what they wore, what they drove, and how others would respond when they first pulled up to the curb and got out. Impressing everyone around them was the goal. Failing to do so was a disaster worthy of movie-of-the-week-like attention. Until, of course, movies of the week fell by the wayside.

Now, I presume, they just drink themselves silly when their Lada Niva Sport merits an indifferent shrug from the prom queen.

But here's the thing: Once everyone scatters from that curbside kill zone in front of the high school reunion - or whatever venue that serves as Judgement Central - you're still wearing whatever you were wearing, still driving whatever you pulled up in. And the prom queen and folks like her who passed judgement on you? They've moved on. Forgotten you exist once again, until the next time you pull up.

And it's up to you to live with the person you are. And until you learn to ignore the prom queens - who I'm betting are more miserable than you've ever imagined - and listen to your own voice instead, that whole happiness and self-contentment thing might remain out of reach.

Besides, the Lada Niva Sport is a seriously great vehicle to have when eight feet of snow lands on your driveway overnight. You could even pick up the prom queen on the way to work.

Your turn: How do you find inner happiness?

5 comments:

Karen S. said...

Okay, you can count me out of the loop, I didn't have any idea what that vehicle was....thanks for the link, and I'm a big fan of CARS! I still have like the best ever collection of MatchBox and Hot Wheel cars even...(I'm serious too!)....okay enough said, I'm going out to see a horse and a couple of cool birds and share the news about this kinda silly looking ride.....they probably don't have a clue about it either. Thanks Carmi!!!!

rennratt said...

I find inner happiness by looking at my kid, and seeing the hope and drive that I'd forgotten. I see heart, compassion, passion...

She makes me want to be a better person.

ifthethunderdontgetya™³²®© said...

Funny, Carmi.

I got some nice pictures of a horse, a bird (I'm not sure what kind yet), and a rooster yesterday. Coming soon to a blog near you!
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CorvusCorax12 said...

by not giving a hoot about what others think :)

Alexia said...

I've known a few unhappy horses...